I’m going to be stepping on some toes here writing this blog. This is a topic that has come to my attention through my own experiences, what I’ve seen online and other channels. Which is why I felt the need to write about it. Why do Polynesian men prefer white girls over Polynesian women? Notice I’m not saying Samoan men versus Samoan women or Fijian men versus Fijian women because I know what the arguments are there. “She could be my cousin,” “I can’t deal with the culture any longer,” (which by the way is a LAME excuse if you ask me. The culture part defs not the cousin part. Don’t date your cousin people.), and other excuses. That’s why I’m saying Polynesian men versus Polynesian women because it’s across the board. I did my “informal” research. So, let’s dive in.
December 28, 2020 marked the 91st year of a terrible event that unfolded in Samoa. Many Samoans know about today, but if you do not, here is the short version. This short version is not to brush away so lightly what happened, however, history has embedded this day in our books. Yet, it forgets the events that occur afterwards. So, what happened? Let’s start with some intro. Before Black Saturday, many Samoans, men and women, were working together to gain freedom from Samoa. The Mau Movement had been organizing, sending petitions, etc. Samoa during this time had been through a cycle of colonization from Germany, America, and now it was under the “watchful eye,” of colonized New Zealand. I say colonized New Zealand because I would not dare to assume that any Maori people were a part of the police there.
On December 28, 1929, the men from the Mau movement marched through Apia in a peaceful protest. When they reached the middle of the city, they were gunned down by the New Zealand police. One notable leader, Tupua Tamasese Lealofi III, was one of the men gunned down. Before he died he said, “My blood has been spilt for Samoa. I am proud to give it. Do not dream of avenging it, as it was spilt in peace. If I die, peace must be maintained at any price.” While I respect what the Honorable Tamasese said, I do not agree that it should be brought up every time Samoa is at conflict. While we might not need to resort to violence, I do believe that sometimes we need to make a little noise to be heard.
So, what happened after this? My fellow Samoans who know this story, could you tell me? Could you tell me what happened to the men who were a part of this movement? I know there’s a few of you who could cause my source comes from a woman in our community. So, let’s dive in.
My name is Micha Faamausili, most people call me Meesh. I was born and raised on Oahu but currently live in Oregon. I’m a part time caregiver for adults with disabilities and full time YouTuber. I’m Samoan Polish and use my platform to bring awareness to breaking the stigma of mental health in our pasifika community. I’m currently navigating life after loss, balancing depression and grief all while sharing bits of my story on YouTube and IG. My hope is that others who are like me, aren’t ashamed to speak up or seek help!
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, history was made in our community. A show that I’ve been extremely psyched to see dropped, and it has made waves across the world. That show is SIS. It was made by mainly by Pasifika women for our community. For those of us who have been searching for media where we can see ourselves, this is a blessing and something to be proud of. While many have been singing its praises, there are those ready to tear it down. Before I go into that, I want to tell you what I saw.
In summary, I saw a show that makes me feel proud of our heritage. It makes me feel like I can be comfortable in who I am. It showcased not just me, but it showcased me and my cousins hanging out. When I watched the show, I wasn’t watching women and men portraying characters. I was watching my family be authentically themselves. I saw my family and ancestors. Sure, some of it was dramatic, but come on it’s comedy and honestly, our families are filled with drama and laughter. It’s the first time I have watched a show and thought, I finally feel seen. That’s the power this show has. That’s the path this show is creating for our people.
Before you read anymore, this is a SPOILER ALERT. There are different aspects of this show that I’m going to dive into, and I hope you watch the show before reading the rest of this blog.
I am a young Samoan lady. I currently work as a Ramp Agent for the airlines. Born and raised in Hawaii my early years but I call American Samoa home. I am the eldest of 5. I am the host of the PolysRUs Podcast. I have ambitions, would like to be successful and eventually give back to my Polynesian community. I’m just a small fish in a big pond tryna grow out of it.
My name is Jessica Magro – I am a 26 year old first generation Australian-Samoan woman living in Brisbane, QLD, Australia! I’m a sister, daughter, partner and filmmaker. I am also half Maltese which has attributed to me not looking stereotypically Samoan. I’ve lived in Brisbane all my life and have been lucky enough to go back to Samoa a few times over the years but I have always felt like an imposter not knowing the language or practicing religion with the Samoan Church. I’ve grown up feeling very much like a coconut which has taken me many years to fully embrace. As a filmmaker I want to give us coconuts a voice because there is not just one way of being Samoan or Pasifika and that’s what I love so much about connecting with and embracing the Pasifika diaspora.
Throughout history we have seen our women be leaders in movements, take care of our people, and fight for the preservation of our culture. Sadly, even in our own islands and villages women are represented or recognized as true leaders. We can be leaders in the western world and that’s okay, but what about our own families? What about more women becoming chiefs? There’s something to be said about women having that position and the ability to have a say in how our villages and families run. Plus, I can already hear it now, “Women should be seen and not heard,” or “They need to take care of the household. That’s where they have their say.” Trust me I know it’s 2020, and you wouldn’t think this mindset is still around, but trust me, I’ve seen how some of our families work. I’ve gone to church and see the gender roles placed. The old ways are still there.
I’m from the Island of Moloka’i which is one of 8 islands in the Hawaii chain. I now reside in Utah cause milk is cheap. Culture shock but Home is where you are! I love traveling, good energy & positive vibes.
“Someone told me they were worried about you cause you had gained weight.” “Do you think a guy is going to date you? They only date girls who are skinny. ” “It’s the world we live in. Skinny girls get what they want.” “Are you depressed?” “Do you even want to lose weight?” And, the list goes on and on. This is what I have heard over the last few years. This is all about my weight.